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Using an Essential Oil Aphrodisiac To Spice Up Your Love Life

Lovers | Essential Oil Aphrodisiac

Using an essential oil aphrodisiac can be a fun way to add a little spice to your love life. Using scents to seduce, arouse, and set the mood for sex has been around for centuries. Cleopatra reputedly seduced Marc Anthony with the scent of rose.

Aromatherapy Romance

Let's look at essential oils that may help stimulate romance:

  • Cinnamon has been chosen in studies as a favorite scent by both men and women. Brian researcher Daniel Amen, MD, says that cinnamon is the most powerful aphrodisiac for men. Other spicy essential oils for lovers include ginger, cardamon, and nutmeg. (Interesting that these spices are also used in cooking, isn't it?)
  • Jasmine has a seductive, sedating scent that's been used for hundreds of years as an aphrodisiac in India. 
  • Patchouli is another Indian aphrodisiac. Its earthy fragrance has a balancing, grounding effect that helps ease anxiety.
  • Rose is harmonizing, comforting, and romantic. 
  • Sandalwood has an aroma close to a personal human scent and creates a sensual atmosphere. 
  • Vanilla may arouse your lover. In the early 20th century, a sex researcher found workers in a vanilla factory were constantly sexually aroused from being around the scent.
  • Ylang ylang is sweet and exotic. It's used for impotency and frigidity.

Other essential oils you can use for a little aromatherapy in the bedroom include myrrh, myrtle, and neroli. Because scent is such a personal preference, experiment to see what works best for you and your partner.

One option is to diffuse the essential oil of your choice with an aromatherapy diffuser. Here are a couple of diffuser blends. If you want to use the blend for massage, add 3 tablespoons carrier oil.

  • 10 drops sandalwood 
  • 5 drops rose or ylang ylang 
  • 5 drops bergamot 


  • 5 drops sandalwood 
  • 5 drops patchouli 
  • 2 drops ylang ylang 
  • 2 drops clary sage 

For a bath, you can add 5 to 10 drops of one of these essential oil aphrodisiac blends to warm water.

Essential Oil Aphrodisiac Lotion

For a feminine, seductive, alluring body lotion, combine:

  • 3 drops orange 
  • 3 drops neroli 
  • 1 tablespoon sweet almond oil or unscented body lotion

Women can also make an aromatherapy perfume.

Massage Aromatherapy for Lovers

Massaging your partner can set the tone for love. Here are some suggested aromatherapy romance massage blends.

Heart of Roses

To set the mood for sensuous pleasure and slow, romantic love, massage each other with the following blend:

  • 3 drops rose 
  • 3 drops sandalwood 
  • 1 tablespoon sweet almond oil or unscented body lotion

For a super-sexy aromatherapy massage blend, use:

  • 2 drops bergamot
  • 2 drops jasmine
  • 2 drops ylang ylang
  • 1 tablespoon sweet almond oil

Source: The Fragrant Veil: Scents for the Sensuous Woman

Another sexy blend:

  • 8 drops ginger
  • 5 drops myrrh
  • 2 drops jasmine
  • 1 drop cardamon
  • 4 tablespoons carrier oil

Source: Aromatherapy for Dummies

Another seductive blend:

  • 10 drops sandalwood
  • 10 drops lavender
  • 2 drops ylang ylang or patchouli
  • 2 drops vanilla
  • 1 drop cinnamon
  • 1 drop jasmine
  • 4 ounces (1/2 cup) sweet almond oil

Source: Aromatherapy: A Complete Guide to the Healing Art

Aromatherapy Romance For Valentine's Day

In addition to the blends already suggested, you can use a little aromatherapy for Valentine's Day by diffusing one of the following essential oil blends suggested by Beverley Hawkins of West Coast Aromatherapy.

  • 2 drops ylang ylang
  • 4 drops patchouli
  • 2 drops ginger


  • 3 drops rose
  • 2 drops geranium
  • 1 drop rosemary

I recommend Young Living essential oils.

Photo Credits: Lovers by Kurhan/123RF Stock Photo and Roses from MorgueFile

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